Archive for January, 2015

Over the last year I’ve said “I love you” to both HC and MS numerous times. I’ve said “I love you” to HC in front of MS. I’ve said “I love you” to MS in front of HC. I’ve kissed and hugged one or the other in front of the other so many times I’ve lost count.

Lately, in an effort to improve communication, I’ve started emailing both MS and HC at the same time, and group texting with them. It’s been really amazing how everyone being on the same page has helped. No more “can you tell HC I said ‘xyz'” or “Did you let MS know that I’m doing ‘abc’?”. And no more “I thought I told you that I talked to HC about going to …”.

What was really nice yesterday as I was headed home and communicating via group text was when I came to the “I love you” part. Since it was a group text would one assume it was meant only for them? Would they automatically assume it was meant for both? Instead, I typed “Love you both!”

At first it felt a bit surreal. But fuck it, I DO love them both and they both know it.

So Poly is… telling your partners you love them!

Another good poly moment last night: MS, HC and I were scheduled to attend a ploy meetup together. Since the meetup location is close to MS’s office, I usually take her to the bus stop, then pick her up after I leave. This is problematic since her office is over 30 miles (an hour of traffic) from my office. In addition, both MS and HC typically get off work anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes before I do. So HC steps up and says “I’ll pick MS up when I get off work and we’ll hang out, shop, or whatever until you get off work and meet us both for dinner”.

And it all worked like a charm. HC pick’s up MS and they run by Micheal’s and Tuesday Morning, before calling me and letting me know they were heading to Panera Bread. I arrived just as they were sitting down with their orders!


So to sum it up… Poly Is…. your girlfriend helping out and hanging out with your wife 🙂

I so love them both!



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love is… or Poly is…

We’ve had some great poly moments that last few weeks. The other night was no exception and it made me think of the old “Love Is…” comics (
But instead, I thought “Poly is…”. In that night’s case MS and I were both in bed, ready to call it a night. I was texting with HC who was at a meetup, MS was texting with a new guy she just started seeing and they were planning a movie date. Since I have the Fandango app on my smartphone she asked me to look up movie times for several movies near us.

So in short, “Poly is…” helping your wife and her new fling find a movie for date night. Feeling good!


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